Sometimesthings can get a little rocky between moms and strong-willed little girls.
Sometimes we need to take a good look at our relationship, and change some things.
And how better to know what needs to change than to ask the little girl?
So Amelie and I had a little talk about what we can do better to have a more fulfilling relationship.
Where each feels more loved and valued among the business of daily life.
I had Amelie write down a few things I can do better and what she can do better
Amelie for Mom
1. Stop threatening me sometimes.
2. Be more calm with chores.
3. Don't tell me what to do at the same time.
4. Be more patient.
Amelie will
1. Be kinder.
2. Be patient.
3. Be obedient.
(Man, do I love the last one!)
My List for Moi
1. I will cuddle her more.
2. Give her more words of affirmation & praises & 'love yous'.
3. Read books with her.
4. Give chores, one at a time.
You'd think that after 20 years of raising kids I'd be a pro by now!
Far from it!
I fail.I get distracted. I make mistakes.
What works with one doesn't work for another.
Thus the constant need to reevaluate.
I hope that in some small way, my kids will come out OK.
That they know I mean well.
I am still fumbling my way through parenthood.
Because I want the best life has to offer for them.
I want them to be happy and fulfilled.
I want them to be strong and courageous when tough choices and trials come their way.
I want them to be good, and caring, and happy.
All that despitemy failings as a parent.
They can be all that despite me, because they have potential, they have free agency,
and they can become who they want to be.
Besides listening to General Conference in the car on our way to Dallas.
A little background first:
As part of keeping the Sabbath day holly, as a family we do not do sports on Sundays.
Unfortunately, 2 of Amelie's Gymnastic meets have been scheduled on Sundays.
For the 1st one, we got permission from the meet director to have her compete
on Saturday with a different level from her team.
This time, they told us she could do it on Saturday but with another team from Dallas!
Total strangers for Amelie!
Needless to say she was not comfortable with that!
As her mom, it was so hard to see her so distraught and wanting to be with her team.
She decided not to go...
Until the last minute, after her coach and I talked to her, she decided to go.
And that took sooooo much courage!
So we packed up the car and drove the 3+ hour to Dallas.
On the way there, she told us how nervous she was.
Which is totally understandable!
And she dreads her beam routine, because she fell the last 2 competitions because of nerves.
I suggested she pray and ask her Heavenly Father to calm her nerves.
She was making a big sacrifice to keep his commandments.
He would help.
So she said a little pray of faith
Well, she did so well!
So well, that she felt comfortable with the team she was placed with,
the coaches & teammates were so welcoming and friendly!
And she did not fall off the beam!
She beat almost all her previous scores.
And with a score of 36.15, she surelly went up a level, maybe even 2!
Beam 8.500
Floor 8.600
Bars 9.300
Vault 9.750
She was so happy!
And so was I.
I watched her the whole night with a feeling of joy and may I say pride?
At the same time I felt humbled and grateful to a God that answers prayers, and cares deeply about us.
It was wonderful to see my little 10 year old girl be so confident, calm,
elegant and beautiful in the executions of her routines.
She was like a little shinning star!
Being the only one from her team, she really stood out in her pink outfit!
Her daddy and mommy only had eyes for her!
And I knew that her Heavenly Father had blessed her as she obeyed one of His commandment.
I hope she remembers and learns to trust her God through out her life.
He is good.